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I used to spend summers at my grandparents place.  I learned to ride horses so they bought horses.  I used to think it would be great to live there all the time.  Then when I went off to college they exchanged horses for goats and a donkey (easier to take care of).  Grandma had always hoped I would move up there to raise a family.  She even wanted to gift me their side yard. But I was stubborn and had different plans.

I was rather comfy in my suburban life.  I had a great job, bought a house, started a family.  That's what you do right?  Then jobs changed and we decided it was best I become a stay at home mom.  1 kid became 2.  And then money got tight like it often does with kids so retail gave us the little extra we needed.  2 kids became 3.  You know we finally figured out what was causing that.  Don't worry, we fixed it.

Then my grandma passed away.  My grandparents were willing me the small farm.  I remember my youngest was only 2 weeks old.  I couldn't handle that much change all at once.  I couldn't STAND the thought of moving to the country.  It was soooo far away from everything.  Even though I thought granddad would need someone to live with I just knew it couldn't be me.  I figured when it came time we would just have to sell the place.

And then everything in my life went kind of upside down.  Jobs moved again, we all know how wonderful the current economy isn't and we started feeling the pressure to prep for our future.  At the same time we realized my dear grandfather was suffering the beginning stages of Alzheimer's.  He was lost twice at Christmas for over 36 hours.

We made the decision to move and it has changed our life.  I intend for these blog entries to be a place to talk about our experiences.  I'm hoping to learn a great deal from others but at the same time I know there will be trails and things I am only able to learn the hard way.

I am definitely experiencing some massive culture shock moving from 15 minutes away from a large city to where it is at least 45 minutes to a slightly suburban town.  I hope if you are considering moving to homestead you look at all of the things that will change in your life.

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Tags: changes, girl, homesteading, kids, life, moving, suburban

Comment by Herbert Arce on December 3, 2011 at 10:58am

At least you're home where you belong now:) Life does always steer you back to where you need to go.

Comment by Herbert Arce on December 3, 2011 at 10:59am

For us, a trip to a real mall involves a 3 hour trip.

Comment by All Hallows Farm on December 3, 2011 at 1:00pm

I think you are right.  I am home.  I still have a lot of adjustment to do but it's coming together.  I would say to get to a "real mall" it is probably an hour but to the kind of mall I was used to 3 hours.  But really there wasn't much there I needed anyway.  Now, if only I understood why the only local hardware store closes at noon on a weekend.

Comment by Herbert Arce on December 3, 2011 at 4:32pm

College football is the reason the hardware stores close at noon! UK, WV fans all HAVE to be home to support their teams... my wife bleeds blue!

Comment by All Hallows Farm on December 3, 2011 at 8:48pm

That could be it! lots of WVU fans here.

Comment by Dotty Sharp on December 4, 2011 at 11:57am

Hi Kelly, I made the transition from suburban brat to homestead mama almost 30 years ago. Life changes put me back in the suburbs for a few years, but I'm back on the farm again. I can hear the struggle in your blog. Like you know this is the way you're supposed to go, but your emotions haven't quite caught up with you. And I'm sure the work load is overwhelming, especially with so many little ones. And then feeling the pressure of getting so much done before the economy goes belly up. I hope this becomes a place where you can find the support you need. When I made my initial move to the country I had a strong group of female friends going through the same transition. It really helped. We ended up forming a homeschool support network and still get together for a week every year to catch up on each others' lives. Do you have anything like that available? Or have you made any like-minded friends?

Comment by Sonja Tropf on December 4, 2011 at 9:23pm

I don't think you are alone. We are just venturing off onto the same path. We bought a house with16 Acres in a different province 24 driving hrs away from our family. We are moving 3 small kids, 4 chicken, 1 rooster, 8 bunnies and a cat. Our suburban house is sold and in the end of March we will be on our way. I am excited and frightened. It is an adventure! Good luck for you and your family. 

Comment by All Hallows Farm on December 4, 2011 at 9:56pm

It is an adventure and one I am truly thankful to be on.  I think you nailed it Dotty, my emotions haven't always caught up.  Especially when I am dealing with rural healthcare here being substandard to what I was used to I start to feel overwhelmed and wondering if we did the right choice.  So far been through 3 pediatricians and still can't find one I would trust to treat a blister.  But I really do KNOW this is what we are supposed to be doing. I hated the idea of apocalypse or whatever happening while we were in the suburbs.  And even on a more day to day basis - we had homeless living on the county property behind our suburban home.  Now I live someplace where I can actually let my kids play outside.  They are still young enough they have to stay close to the house but I am less worried someone is going to snatch them.  Apparently I should have fear for my mailbox though.  Someone knocked it over late last night or early this morning with a 4-wheeler judging by the size of the tracks.

I do view this as the support network I have been looking for.  I have one friend IRL who homesteads and who has been teaching me almost everything so far.  But otherwise I don't have a local support network.  It is rather isolating moving into a small community where people don't really do much as a community.  The people who aren't working big farms all have 2 jobs and are never around or are much older retired folk.  I am trying to find some local ladies to get together with....just not much luck yet.  Even joined the PTO but so far that's a bust too.  Hubby commutes 2 hours each way to work every day so the farm is my job and he helps with projects on the weekends.  We have a lot of maintenance for things that were just in disrepair.  I know it will just take time.  I do happen to be that dive in the deep end type of person though. I put the pressure on myself.

Thank you for all of your supporting comments.  I don't want to discourage anyone. I think this is a wonderful lifestyle change.  I do encourage people to really look at what they are getting into and not just the romanticized life of a farmer's wife.

Comment by Dotty Sharp on December 4, 2011 at 10:59pm

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Wish we were closer, I'm in Missouri. Make this your new adventure because the way you view it in your thoughts will have a huge bearing on whether it's a happy time or trial. I'm happy to help in any way I can. 

And, when you're fixing that mailbox? A cement filled metal post should do the trick.

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